A month or so ago I thought I should probably start preparing myself for impending motherhood. I’ve decided not to go to antenatal classes for various reasons, so a book seemed a good place to begin. (Ahh, the trusty book!) I wanted something written by someone with a sense of humour, that hopefully wouldn’t terrify me into hiding, but that was realistic when discussing the subject of becoming a parent. A book that reads like you’re having a chat with a Mummy-friend over a glass of wine, and not one that frowns on you for consuming that one glass of wine a week, like you’re already a bad mother.
In Liz Fraser’s brilliant book The Yummy Mummy’s Survival Guide I discovered a kindred, sarcastic spirit. The book has a wonderful, helpful, funny, reassuring but realistic narrative about pregnancy, birth and the first year or so. It’s a book that assures you that becoming a Mummy doesn’t mean you have to stop being the beautiful, confident, sexy woman you were prior to motherhood.
In the book she takes you through the stages of pregnancy, interjecting her own personal experience and stories from fellow Yummy Mummy’s that make you realise you’re not in this alone. She then continues through labour – writing realistically, but not scaring the living daylights out of you (well, not too much…still doesn’t sound like a walk in the park, but hey it’ll be fine…hopefully!) and then onwards into parenthood; covering topics from breastfeeding, to what to pack in a practical, useful changing bag. Fraser writes with fabulous humour and such human-understanding that you find yourself wishing she was your friend by the end of the first chapter.
If you’re feeling slightly terrified about the changes ahead, are looking for a book to guide you through the initial wilderness of parenthood, and don’t want to sacrifice your sense of “self”, then I thoroughly recommend Fraser’s book. I haven’t finished reading The Yummy Mummy’s Survival Guide yet, as I’m not quite ready to start reading about what happens post-1 year (let’s just get through the birth and the initial few weeks first), but I know I’ll be referring to this book on the labour ward. Most importantly, I’ll be referring to it after Grape is born to remind myself that everyone goes through the problems and issues that arise, but we all get through it eventually. Fraser shows you that it’s still possible to be Yummy as well as a new Mummy, without losing your own identity along the way.
We’re off to London for the photo shoot tomorrow and I’m very excited! It’s an early start so I hope I don’t look too tired in the photos… A cup of tea and a croissant on the train will definitely be essential.
Disclaimer: I have written about this book because I think it’s fabulous. All thoughts and words are my own.