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Staring at the computer screen the sentence Exclusive venue hire (for 24 hours only): £15,000 VAT not included glares back at me. I turn, in shock, to Nick: “Hey, let’s elope!”
£15,000?? FIFTEEN THOUSAND POUNDS?? For one day! Who has £15,000 to spend on a wedding? £15,000 is almost enough for a deposit on a house! £15,000 would just about pay off my student loan! Think of what you could buy for £15,000… And people pay this just for the exclusive hire of a venue?!
Weddings have lost their way. They have become about keeping up with the Jones’; the underlying pressure and competitiveness to win the best wedding we’ve ever been to title. I guess it stems from the 00s where people had money to burn. Unfortunately, in today’s society money is tight, and things such as buying a house for our future have become a priority, especially now we have Busby.
I was talking to my friend Kim about this a few weeks ago, and she said something that has stuck in my mind: “Whatever happened to getting married in a church, and then going back to ma bit for a piece?” (she’s Scottish – so that last part translates as “going back to my house for a sandwich”) But she’s totally and utterly right! When my parents got married they did just that, and it looked and sounded like a lovely, incredibly special, treasured day. A day that wasn’t about how much money you spent, but one that was about the reason two people get married: love.
We haven’t properly started planning yet. We know we want to get married in October 2014. We know we love each other. And we know we can’t afford to spend £15,000 on a wedding, let alone just the venue! Every time I start to think about costs, and the important things like who to invite, I end up feeling pretty stressed, and it’s at that point I suggest once again to Nick: “Let’s elope.”