(I) Do // “Hey, let’s elope!”

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Staring at the computer screen the sentence Exclusive venue hire (for 24 hours only): £15,000 VAT not included glares back at me. I turn, in shock, to Nick: “Hey, let’s elope!” 

£15,000?? FIFTEEN THOUSAND POUNDS?? For one day! Who has £15,000 to spend on a wedding? £15,000 is almost enough for a deposit on a house! £15,000 would just about pay off my student loan! Think of what you could buy for £15,000… And people pay this just for the exclusive hire of a venue?!

Weddings have lost their way. They have become about keeping up with the Jones’; the underlying pressure and competitiveness to win the best wedding we’ve ever been to title. I guess it stems from the 00s where people had money to burn. Unfortunately, in today’s society money is tight, and things such as buying a house for our future have become a priority, especially now we have Busby. 

I was talking to my friend Kim about this a few weeks ago, and she said something that has stuck in my mind: “Whatever happened to getting married in a church, and then going back to ma bit for a piece?” (she’s Scottish – so that last part translates as “going back to my house for a sandwich”) But she’s totally and utterly right! When my parents got married they did just that, and it looked and sounded like a lovely, incredibly special, treasured day. A day that wasn’t about how much money you spent, but one that was about the reason two people get married: love. 

We haven’t properly started planning yet. We know we want to get married in October 2014. We know we love each other. And we know we can’t afford to spend £15,000 on a wedding, let alone just the venue! Every time I start to think about costs, and the important things like who to invite, I end up feeling pretty stressed, and it’s at that point I suggest once again to Nick: “Let’s elope.”


  1. 14th March 2013 / 7:17 pm

    Oh i know what u mean!! I fell preggers in the midst of wedding planning so we pushed pause until she was 15 weeks old (hubby couldn’t cope with sin any longer 😉 ) and our grand plans were condensed massivley – local church and local restaurant @ £20 a head…planned in 3 weeks, my brother is currently planning a 15g affair and it makes me appreciate our small nearest and dearest affair all the more!!
    New reader btw but LOVE your blog.

    • 14th March 2013 / 9:36 pm

      Thank you for your lovely comment 🙂

      3 weeks?? Wow! With a relatively newborn baby as well – you are superwoman!! xx

  2. 15th March 2013 / 2:18 am

    Or crazy 😉
    My dress was already bought so at least the stress helped me fit back into it. Ha ha.

    • 15th March 2013 / 3:30 pm

      That was lucky! And yes I bet the stress helped… that and having a newborn! I don’t find time to eat anymore! xx

  3. 15th March 2013 / 3:22 pm

    Precisely why I have been engaged for 4 years not married for 4 haha, it’s so hard because you want it to be lovely and good for the guests but even a cheap wedding is expensive! xx

    • 15th March 2013 / 3:31 pm

      Haha! I know it is, isn’t it? We’re looking at having a very small ceremony and meal in a restaurant with our nearest and dearest, and then having almost a “ball” for the reception xxx

  4. 15th March 2013 / 5:08 pm

    I’ve nearly been engaged a year now and havent planned in the slightest for that very reason. Weddings are so expensive now! I’ve been looking at package deals and found some really discounted shops online for dresses. I’m thinking of having an afternoon wedding then i can get away with having two meals and just have a big hot buffet! Haha tight bugger x

    • 15th March 2013 / 8:39 pm

      I don’t think that’s tight – it’s jolly expensive! xx

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