Nick and I have now been engaged for one whole year! It has been such a crazy year – which you can read about here. But for all of the overwhelming, magical moments, it has certainly been a year that has tested our relationship to the max.
Having a baby provides you with a staggering amount of “wow” moments, but it also tries a relationship.
Like really, really, really tries it.
Day three when your milk comes in, for example; I was an emotional wreck. (Yes more than usual.) Nick had me sobbing on the stairs, while Busby screamed the house down for milk that I just couldn’t give her due to a number of issues. It was horrible. And that hasn’t been the only trying moment; there have been times over the last 8 months where our relationship has been strained due to lack of sleep, feelings of inadequacy and about one hundred other, retrospectively, silly reasons.
We have another year of engagement ahead of us before we say our vows, exchange the rings and boogie to our first dance. If we have made it through the past year with our relationship still intact then we’re set for life really! A hen/stag do shouldn’t be the “test” to a relationship – throw (don’t actually throw) a child into the mix, and see how that couple do! Now there’s a real test.
Anyway, now we’re a family, getting married seems so much more important to me than it did when we were just a twosome. Never before did I think a change of surname would hold so much power; I know that it’s silly, and it’s just a piece of paper in reality… but I can’t wait to share the same surname as the other two people in our little family. It’s not just Nick and I becoming one; it’s all three of us becoming one.
Becoming a family in the eyes of the law.
And hopefully (*fingers crossed* *touch wood* *toes crossed*) family member number four will be joining our troop 9 months or so afterwards. This might be one of the biggest reasons why I’m so excited about our wedding at the moment. Cheers hormones, horrific broodiness and the fact that everyone in the world seems to be pregnant (I know… over-exaggeration!).
This week’s post seems to have turned into a bit of a ramble from me, so I’ll tie it up!
We’re meeting with my dream wedding photographer later this week. Woop! I’m also going to try on some stunning gowns on Friday, so I’ll update you next week, as I’m hoping to discover “the one” fairly soon.