“Us” time required

We are tired.

No, scrap that, we are exhausted.

We miss each other.

We miss spending time together.

Quality time.


No I’m not just talking about that. Well…

In the almost 13 months that we’ve been parents, we’ve had one over-night away from Busby. But it was a wedding; not the greatest opportunity to talk, catch up or discuss the future.

So we’ve been talking about having a night away. Sans le bĂŠbĂŠ. Heading off early one Saturday morning, and not returning until the Sunday evening. A weekend to disappear. To be Hannah and Nick again, and not just “Mummy” and “Daddy”.

Easter would probably be quite a good time to do it as Nick will have the Friday and Monday off (ooh, just think, we could go away for even longer!), and Grandparents would be around to Busby-sit. A quick search for “Easter Breaks 2014” and the world – well, country – is our oyster!

I can see it now: fresh, white linen, a heated swimming pool, tasty food without the dreaded fear that she might wake up whilst we’re eating. Going to sleep without the worry of joining the 3am club…


Ever since reading this post by the wonderful Franglaise Mummy, I’ve realised that we shouldn’t feel guilty about wanting needing to spend time just the two of us; it’s normal. Pre-Busby we had all the time in the world to do what we wanted; the weekly meals out, ending up in our favourite wine bar for a post-dinner bottle of something yummy, brunch on weekends… I think that every relationship needs to retain at least some of who you were before, although actually finding the time (and a babysitter) to achieve this is tough. But becoming parents shouldn’t mean the end of you as a couple. You shouldn’t always be a “three”, or a “four”, or even a “five”. You should be able to go back to “two” when needs require.

We’re looking at the New Forest as somewhere to escape to. I love watching the wild horses roam and there would be lots of gorgeous woodland walks to get lost on. I’ve had some lovely hotel recommendations, so it’s just a case of picking one now… and organising the Busby-sitters!

When was the last time you went away without the kids?

Follow me: BlogLovin’ // Twitter // Facebook // Google+ // Pinterest // Instagram 


  1. 17th January 2014 / 9:35 am

    Sometimes a little grown up time really helps the whole family feel much more refreshed.

    • 17th January 2014 / 7:52 pm

      Definitely 🙂 xx

  2. 17th January 2014 / 8:05 pm

    I haven’t left Archie overnight yet but as I am still breastfeeding it is much harder. The bloke and I definitely need to spend more time together though and could do with a night away soon!

    • 17th January 2014 / 8:07 pm

      I think we all need a break occasionally 😉 xx

  3. 17th January 2014 / 11:42 pm

    Grown up time is really important, we don’t get loads but our boys are staying out tomorrow night and we have the night off!!

    • 20th January 2014 / 9:57 pm

      Ooh I hope you enjoyed your night 🙂 xx

  4. 17th January 2014 / 11:50 pm

    Go for it, it does your marriage and your head good! We tried to get away in August but the babysitter(childless sister in law) panicked after 12 hours so not very successful :-(. #PoCoLo

    • 20th January 2014 / 9:57 pm

      Oh no! I hope you manage to get some time away soon xx

  5. 18th January 2014 / 12:44 pm

    I could of written this myself!!!… Its my Partners 30th the end of this month, we have been together for 10 years now and 10 months after meeting each other we had our 1st baby! so we have never been on holiday, a break or done coupley things without being a family. But we have booked a night away just for me and him! im feeling nervous lol #pocolo

    • 20th January 2014 / 9:58 pm

      Oh wow! Have an amazing time 🙂 I’m sure you’ll love it! xx

  6. 18th January 2014 / 11:58 pm

    Sounds like a lovely plan! And Busby gets 36-odd hours of grandparent cuddles too, so everyone wins! If you want somewhere nice to visit near the new forest I can heartily recommend Mottisfont Abbey (a National Trust property) xxx

    • 20th January 2014 / 9:58 pm

      Exactly 🙂

      Ooh fab – thanks love xxx

  7. 19th January 2014 / 8:18 pm

    OoO Sounds lovely, I can only dream of that now! Once Thomas is a year I think we’ll take a weekend away..I think it’s nice for little ones to spend some time with grandparents. Enjoy the New Forest! #PoLoCo

    • 20th January 2014 / 9:58 pm

      Yes definitely 🙂 thank you xx

  8. 20th January 2014 / 12:12 am

    Sounds great! I honestly can’t remember the last time James and I last got out out without the kids, we’ve only had one night away from kids since having Alex over 4 years ago, and we stayed home after getting home late from a wedding and I was pregnant with Sam! So in very desperate need of some time together and a night away before our wedding night (but don’t see it happening myself)! xx

    • 20th January 2014 / 9:59 pm

      Oh you never know! I hope you manage to get away before the wedding xx

  9. 22nd January 2014 / 6:23 pm

    Generally we get a little bit of time to ourselves as Grace goes off to her father but saying that it is getting less frequent because Ross is working! Tricky one. Enjoy your time away together and thank you for linking to PoCoLo x

  10. 25th January 2014 / 10:46 pm

    Thank you so much for the link and lovely comment 🙂 Us time is so important, and becomes more so when you have more children/as they get older. Making that time for ourselves has helped us have the great marriage we have now, nearly 11 years after saying “I do”. Have an amazing Easter break and do share how you get on xx

Leave a Reply

Your email address will not be published.

This site uses Akismet to reduce spam. Learn how your comment data is processed.