“Us” time required
We are tired.
No, scrap that, we are exhausted.
We miss each other.
We miss spending time together.
No I’m not just talking about that. Well…
In the almost 13 months that we’ve been parents, we’ve had one over-night away from Busby. But it was a wedding; not the greatest opportunity to talk, catch up or discuss the future.
So we’ve been talking about having a night away. Sans le bébé. Heading off early one Saturday morning, and not returning until the Sunday evening. A weekend to disappear. To be Hannah and Nick again, and not just “Mummy” and “Daddy”.
Easter would probably be quite a good time to do it as Nick will have the Friday and Monday off (ooh, just think, we could go away for even longer!), and Grandparents would be around to Busby-sit. A quick search for “Easter Breaks 2014” and the world – well, country – is our oyster!
I can see it now: fresh, white linen, a heated swimming pool, tasty food without the dreaded fear that she might wake up whilst we’re eating. Going to sleep without the worry of joining the 3am club…
Ever since reading this post by the wonderful Franglaise Mummy, I’ve realised that we shouldn’t feel guilty about
wanting needing to spend time just the two of us; it’s normal. Pre-Busby we had all the time in the world to do what we wanted; the weekly meals out, ending up in our favourite wine bar for a post-dinner bottle of something yummy, brunch on weekends… I think that every relationship needs to retain at least some of who you were before, although actually finding the time (and a babysitter) to achieve this is tough. But becoming parents shouldn’t mean the end of you as a couple. You shouldn’t always be a “three”, or a “four”, or even a “five”. You should be able to go back to “two” when needs require.
We’re looking at the New Forest as somewhere to escape to. I love watching the wild horses roam and there would be lots of gorgeous woodland walks to get lost on. I’ve had some lovely hotel recommendations, so it’s just a case of picking one now… and organising the Busby-sitters!
When was the last time you went away without the kids?