Motherhood // 10 things I wish someone had told me about postpartum life

With a few friends about to pop out their first (and consequent) babies, I’ve been thinking about birth and what life is like after having a baby. As one of the first in my group of friends to have children, I sometimes wish I’d had someone close around to tell me all of this, so below would be my advice to my friends (and my lovely readers) about to embark on the crazy journey into the Wilderness:

Motherhood //  10 things I  wish someone had  told me about  postpartum life

1. First up, there is no such thing as ‘too many’ maternity pads. You will always go through so many more than you think you will… and you’ll find that your partner now brings home a bag of pads instead of flowers for you. Who says romance is dead, eh?!

2. There is also no such thing as ‘too much’ tea or cake. Losing the baby weight should be the farthest thing from your mind as you enjoy newborn squishes, so eat the cake. The tea will help all manner of problems too, ranging from sleep deprivation to emotional, hormonal tears. Because, even if you’re not usually a crier, there will be many of the latter.

3. If someone you trust is kind enough to offer to have the baby while you nap, bathe, or just go to the toilet by yourself, accept. Of course you’ll feel like your heart is breaking by not being in the same room as your bundle, but it will do you the world of good. I promise.

4. Nothing can ever prepare you for the sleep deprivation. Not even your pregnant bump keeping you up in the night. Sorry! But know that I am always here for Mumpathy on this matter. Especially at 3am.

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Shattered much?!

5. Don’t push yourself to try to get back to ‘normal’, because I’ll be honest, your ‘normal’ has now changed. This is especially true when you have your second or any consequent children; you thought leaving the house with one child was bad enough, try leaving the house with your first child AND the Baby…

6. Don’t beat yourself up if you’re still in your pyjamas at midday. And you’re three months into Parenthood. It’s a BIG change, and some days getting dressed isn’t high on your list of priorities once you’ve spent the morning cluster feeding…

7. Also, if you are breastfeeding, you’ll probably find yourself wandering around the house with your boobs out. You are a beautiful Goddess, embrace the nakedness because it’s far easier than whipping a tit out every 10 minutes. Just don’t forget if the postman knocks on the door…

8. Be kind to yourself if your birth didn’t go to ‘plan’. If you’re feeling traumatised by your birth, please talk to someone – your birth experience IS important, and don’t fob yourself off with “Even if I didn’t have a positive birth, at least my baby is healthy and well.” YOU are important too.

9. Take each day as it comes. If you’re having a bad day, breathe, drink tea, eat cake, and remember that tomorrow is a new day. It doesn’t matter if you didn’t make it out of the house, or out of your pyjamas, or if you spent the day binge watching Netflix and the house is a mess. You grew a human, remember? Your amazing body grew that human. You rock. And you deserve to rest.

10. Motherhood is hard. But believe me, you are doing a brilliant job.

Motherhood //  10 things I  wish someone had  told me about  postpartum life


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  1. 2nd February 2016 / 8:44 am

    All of these are spot on. Although I ended up with enough maternity pads for a village and hardly used any. Gave all mine to my pregnant friends.
    Despite all the above, it’s so worth it isn’t it? X

  2. 2nd February 2016 / 9:59 am

    This is both so true and so sweet that it made me well up! Damn hormones… I tell friends the same thing about accepting help. I didn’t, which was forehead-slappingly stupid now I look back on it.

  3. 2nd February 2016 / 12:11 pm

    It feels very good reading that, while breastfeeding my 2nd baby and watching with fear today’s to do list! I might have another tea and bake some cookies instead…

  4. 2nd February 2016 / 12:28 pm

    I think I agree with everything here but even after 3 babies I found it very hard to put any of it into practice it’s so hard isn’t it? I felt obliged to keep everything going for the older two so I was back to god usual cooking, cleaning etc the day number 3 was born. I did find losing weight easier because I never sat down!

  5. 2nd February 2016 / 3:35 pm

    I completely agree with all of these points.. especially the one about the maternity pads. No one can prepare you for just how many you need haha! Definitely one for enjoying the cake and tea here.. I enjoy it on a regular basis anyway so when Bo first arrived, that increased twofold.

  6. 2nd February 2016 / 8:21 pm

    Completely agree with these, especially the sleep deprivation. Two babies, 3 and a bit years in and its still a killer x

  7. 3rd February 2016 / 10:18 am

    I feel like an old timer now my eldest is almost 10, second 8 and third 4. I was the first in my group of friends to become pregnant at 24, most have just started now at 34! I was a size 8 before I had mine, I still am, but have never lost the jelly belly after having my first just under 8lb, second just under 9lb and third 9lb exactly. I was so tired after having my first I left hospital in my PJs (had no energy to get dressed). I spent a lot of days watching day time tv, surrounded by dirty nappies and mess, but, I also spent a lot of time outdoors too. Motherhood is the hardest and most rewarding job ever. And now that mine are that little bit older, I look back on those crazy baby days fondly. Sarah x

  8. 3rd February 2016 / 1:58 pm

    100 per cent agree!!! Lovely, lovely post. Those pre-birth, early parenting days may have been over three years ago for me now, but I can still remember how exhausting, wondrous, painful and all consuming they are! Great advice and support. X

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