Motherhood // When was your “Whoa! I’m a mum!” moment?

Motherhood is a funny thing. I don’t think I really felt like a ‘proper’, grown-up mum with a capital ‘M’ until Busby started school. Of course, I had been her mother for four and a half years – and I’ve had lots of “Holy Smurf, I’m a parent!” moments, but it was like a lightbulb went off and I thought: “Whoa! I’m a real, actual mum!”. I think it was having to talk to teachers as a fellow adult, creating a costume for her nativity, the daily school run, not being able to stay home all day in our pjs, and French club…

This got me thinking – so I decided to ask some other mums: when did they suddenly have that lightbulb “I’m a mum!” moment?

Katie, Mummy in a Tutu

“It was the first time I felt her kick. I was single from 3 weeks pregnant and worried I couldn’t do it. But I felt her kick and thought ‘whoa, I’m going to be a mama! And me and you kid are going to be just fine.’ And we are.”

Jo, Tilly & Cub

“I was having an emergency C-section and I was only 33 weeks pregnant. I really didn’t know whether Matilda would make it. Laying on the table at that moment, I thought ‘If there’s a choice between me or her making it, please be her.’ It was the first time I had a real dose of mother’s love, where their needs truly come before ones own.”

Emma, Ready Freddie Go

“Just after Freddie was born and I read “baby of” and my name on his ID bracelets. It was so so surreal, overwhelming but in a lovely way. I still can’t believe it some days!”

Jo, Maple + Pea

“Archie was born just after 7pm, so as soon as we were ready to go down to the ward, my husband had to go home as it wasn’t visiting hours. I remember laying in bed, staring at him, then taking selfies with him thinking “whoa! He’s mine. I’m his mummy!” Apart from the midwives who would have helped if I’d needed them, I was in charge of making sure he was ok.”

Kate, The Less-Refined Mind

“Mine was when I was nursing my eldest daughter, and for the first time she stared into my eyes for the entire feed. Where there’d previously been surreal feelings, suddenly there was no denying that I had a baby who relied on me, absolutely.”

Gillian, A Baby on Board

“The moment right after my husband went back to work when paternity leave finished – I remember the door shutting and realising I had sole responsibility for looking after this *tiny* little person. I burst into tears with love and all the overwhelming feelings (and mainly sleep deprivation and hormones).”

Gemma, Mutha.hood

“Lena was lying in her fancy pram (that I still hadn’t worked out how to manoeuver at four weeks old!), and a piece of dirt from a nearby skip blew into her eye. She was screaming, and I was in the street looking for help when it suddenly dawned on me that I was her mum! It was down to me to help her! So I washed out her eye, ran home, sat on the sofa and snuggled her for the rest of the day.”

Chloë, Sorry about the Mess

“I felt like I was on autopilot in the first weeks; just concentrating on the huge task of caring for this new person, so my moment didn’t come till a bit later. But when he smiled at me for the first time, I really felt our mother-child connection begin to grow from that point.”

Kerry, Paperjoy

“We went to watch a fireworks display on Bonfire Night last year – and it was the first time Max had seen fireworks. I realised that instead of watching the fireworks, I was watching his face and reaction for the whole display! That’s when I had my ‘I’m a mum!’ moment!”

Lauren, Scrapbook Blog

“For me it was sitting on a train with both kids (the littlest was about 2 weeks in a sling) rocking from side to side to keep him asleep, and keeping an eye on the sleeping toddler in her buggy. There was an older lady sat opposite me who smiled at me in a knowing sort of way. Then it clicked, I had TWO kids, I was a mum!”

Emma, The Bunting Tree

“It’s a bit hazy to be honest. Having William brought me lots of happiness, but the circumstances were crappy. I was homeless for a while, so much of my focus as a new mum was on finding and making us a comfortable home. Our first home was pokey, and I hardly had any furniture – but it was my sanctuary. Once we felt safe and settled, I felt like I was a mum. And we had such fun!”

Mary, Bear & Babe

“It took a little while for my ‘whoa! I’m a mum!’ feeling to kick in. Having a baby – although hard work – didn’t massively phase me, as looking after babies and children came naturally – being a nanny for so many years. Now that I have two ‘older’ children, it’s finally hitting me that I’m a full blown mum. It gets me when I walk down the road holding two little hands. How responsible you feel being in charge of these two little humans. Having to apply for Bear’s school place is making me feel way too grown up and ‘mumsy’!”

When was your “Whoa! I’m a mum!” moment?


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    • Hannah
      16th January 2018 / 2:01 pm

      Thank you so much for joining in Kate! xx

  1. 17th January 2018 / 9:19 am

    A great post! I think for me it was the night feeds and being alone in the night with your baby. A lovely time (aside from feeling exhausted) where you feel your the only one awake! But still beautiful

  2. 17th January 2018 / 12:56 pm

    Really loved reading this! Strangely enough mine wasn’t till my eldest started school and I found myself saying phrases like ‘dont forget your book bag!’ that I’d heard my own mum say to million millions of times over the years. Out of everything it was that that really made me take a step back and go woah, ,I’m a mum! x

  3. 17th January 2018 / 2:02 pm

    Oh I loved this! I had a couple of tears in my eyes reading it! X

  4. 17th January 2018 / 7:12 pm

    Oh my word, what a gorgeous post. I think for me it was was seeing my daughter in the uniform she wears for nursery school. She was suddenly a little person, looking so proud with her shiny shoes and her bookbag. And it was a “wow I’m a mum” moment.

  5. 18th January 2018 / 1:41 pm

    Definitely was when we got home from hospital and I realised his life was in my hands now. Total panicky moment followed by me telling myself to breathe and relax and not become an anxious overprotective madwoman!

  6. 18th January 2018 / 9:59 pm

    What a lovely idea for a post. I guess for me it was when I was in theatre after having my first baby and I was wondering how my daughter was doing (she was back on the ward with my husband). It was that realisation that I’d always have to worry about someone other than myself!

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